I really don’t feel like writing a blog post today.
The truth is – I haven’t felt like writing a blog post for the last year. But somehow I’ve managed to put out at least 3-4 posts a month (sometimes a lot more) for the last two years.
How? Because even though I don’t want to do it – I do it anyway.
Why? Because writing here is important to me.
Here are a few reasons I write for the blog, even when I don’t want to.
- Mental. Writing my thoughts out here helps me get my ideas out of my mind and into the Universe. When I write out an idea – it’s done. My brain can be done with it now. And that’s important to me because I have an over-active mind that never shuts up. Writing things down puts it to sleep for a while.
- Skill Sharpening. When I write out a concept or idea for affiliate marketing, or any other skill that I’ve acquired over the years, it helps me tighten up my own game. Before I can share it with you, I have to write it down and map it out for myself. Not only does it help you – but it helps me sharpen my own skills and create blueprints of my ideas that I can go back and read again in the future if needed.
- Financial. The blog makes money – and I like money. Every time I write a blog post I get more readers and email subscribers. Every time I get new subscribers I make more money through referral links and coaching. In the future I’ll probably have other ways to make money here too. So that is also a motivator. I write when I don’t want to because I know that in the future, if I keep writing and keep helping people – this blog could end up making a lot of money. So on days I don’t want to write, I write for “Future Me” who will undoubtedly earn dividends on the work I’m putting in now.
Okay, enough about writing for the blog. Now I’m going to let you in on another little secret. You know what else I don’t want to do?
I don’t really want to do much of anything. Seriously. I’m naturally a pretty lazy and unmotivated guy. Don’t believe me? Here are a few things that I don’t want to do.
- Go outside
- Drive my car
- Stop drinking
- Take a shower
- Go the gym
- Track calories
- Go home for holidays
- Pick up the phone
- Answer emails
- Go to the doctor
- Buy groceries
- Cut my nails
- Brush my teeth
I could go on and on, but for the sake of this post, I’ll stop there. Because I think you can see where I’m going with this.
The point is – Deep down, I don’t really want to do much of anything. But I do it anyway because I know for a fact, based on years of trial and error that most of the things on my “Don’t Want To Do List” are things that I must do – just to stay alive, healthy, smelling good and out of trouble.
Some of our “I Don’t Want Tos” are big and some are small. But they’re all important.
Big: I don’t WANT to be sober. Drinking is one of the greatest things I ever found in life. I LOVE drinking. But when I drink… bad things happen. I blackout, fall on my face, sleep in the streets and wake up in jail. When I finally decided to stop drinking for good, my life exploded with positivity.
Small: I don’t WANT to go outside. There’s nothing that drives me crazier than the general public. And some days just walking down the street and listening to general conversation drives me crazy. But I know that the answers to my life’s problems are not inside my apartment… they are out there – so I make myself get out there and find them.
Summary: I do the things I don’t want to anyway, and things get better.
What About You?
I’ve just let you in on a little secret. Most of the time, I don’t feel like doing anything.
So, what about you?
How often do you listen to the “I Don’t Want To” voice in your head and how does that ‘listening’ affecting your life?
My guess would be that if you’re giving in to the “I Don’t Want To” voice on a regular basis – your life probably isn’t exploding at the seams with success. It might look more like a black hole of lost years and regrets for not doing as much as you know you could have done.
The good news is that you can turn it around in a split-second.
In fact, you can do it right now.
- Grab a pen and paper or Evernote or something.
- Write down 5–10 things you don’t want to do. (be honest)
- Do one of them anyway.
- When you get that one done, do the next thing.
Your checklist might look something like this:
- I don’t want to exercise today
- I don’t want to write a blog post
- I don’t want to deal with the world.
- I don’t want to go to work.
- I don’t want to go home for Christmas.
Then your to do list would be something like:
- Go for a walk / to the gym / do some pushups
- Write a blog post about not wanting to write a blog post
- Spend 2 hours out of the house with someone you love
- Go to work
- Book your flight home for the holidays
See what happened there?
Your “I Don’t Want To” list just turned into your “To Do” List.
What’s Your Why?
I’ve found it helpful to write out the reasons why doing the things I don’t want to do is important to me (see the list of blog writing reasons above for an example) and I recommend you do the same.
Question: Why is ____________ important to you? How will it benefit you?
Answer: It is important because _______________ (fill in the blank)
Give yourself a good enough “Why” and your brain will come with the “How”.
And that my friend, is one of the most powerful tools I have in my arsenal.
Without it – I would not have written this blog post. I would not be in shape. I would not be sober. I would not be the person that I am today.
I would just be another guy sitting on the couch, watching TV and arguing about politics and football with the rest of them.
Wasting this magical life.