We blame other people for everything, all the time. And it makes sense. Blaming someone else for your problems is easier than accepting ownership but it doesn’t solve a damn thing.
In our early lives we get to blame our parents. We are their products. They shape the way we think and how we view the world. But as the years go by we become less of a product of them and more of a product of ourselves.
A piece of advice I got that helped me was – “You get to blame your parents for all your problems until the age of 20. After that, it’s all on you“
It’s a tough pill to swallow. But it might be the most powerful medicine we’ll ever get. First, taking ownership of our problems reduces our anger towards others and begins the process of forgiveness. Second, it places the blame squarely on our own shoulders.
And although the weight of ownership is heavy, it is a good thing. Because we can’t fix others, but we can fix ourselves. And admitting we’re the problem is the very first step.