As I watched Bill Cosby get out of his car, surrounded by reporters and police and walk into jail – a little piece of my childhood died.
When I saw his mugshot photo… it died a little more.
Dec 30th, 2015: Bill Cosby is arraigned on sexual assault charges.
I’ve been a Cosby fan since I was as young as I can remember. There were his early comedy albums, Fat Albert and of course… the Cosby Show.
As a kid who grew up without his dad around, the Cosby show, for me, represented a dream. A solid family structure, plenty of money to spare and a cool Dad who was supportive, taught me lessons and made me laugh.
I always said that the day Bill Cosby died would be the worst day of my life… but I was wrong… this is much worse.
I have no idea if Mr. Cosby is guilty or not – but seeing him arrested officially marked the end of an era, and being that it happened at the end of 2015, I have decided to make a decision.
I Officially Give Up.
Cosby aside, there are many other things that happened in 2015 that have brought me to this place.
- Subway Jared turned out to be a pedophile
- Lemmy died
- We’re involved in several wars
- Mass shootings
- Police killing people
- Terror attacks
The list goes on and on.
The world has gone crazy and so have most of the people in it. So I give up. And to end 2015 I will share with you a few of the things I give up on.
Then, I’ll share a few things I’ll believe in instead.
I Give Up
- Childhood heroes. As kids we watched TV and thought the actors and stars we saw were heroes. As it turns out, a lot of them are pieces of crap. I give up.
- Expectations of other people. We want people to do better, and we try to set a good example, but some people will never improve. They’re always going to be the way they are for better or for worse. Our expectations and demands don’t matter. So let’s just leave them be. I give up.
- The search for “Perfect”. We dream of perfect situations. Perfect families, jobs, relationships and friends. Perfect doesn’t exist and everyone is going through their own struggles. Nothing is ever going to be perfect. I give up.
- Comparing ourselves to other people. Want to be miserable? Compare yourself to other people on a regular basis. No matter how much money you make, weight you lose, success you acheive there are always people who are doing it better. You will never beat them all, so stop trying.
- Trying to be someone that I’m not. Let’s give up on pretending to be somone or something that we’re not. There is only one you in the world – and the world needs you, not some bad version of someone else.
- Quick fixes. Let’s give up on looking for quick fixes, because there are none. Things take time – LOTS of time. Whether you want to lose weight, get in shape or make a million dollars the way to guarantee failure is to expect it to happen overnight. Because it won’t.
- Belief in Society. A long time ago, some people came up with a a bunch of rules, laws and concepts for our Society. A lot has changed since then and now they’re almost all irrelevant. The system is broken. The goverment, our schools, our financial systems and our relationships with each other are all based on these outdated Society’s rules. I give up on that old Society and will create my own.
What I Believe Now.
It’s not all bad. Sometimes, giving up isn’t a negative thing at all. Giving up simply means that I am at the end of one way of thinking. And with that end, I will start a new beginning.
Here are a few things I believe in now.
- The most important thing you can do is be yourself. Pretending, over time, is painful. In the past I’ve gotten caught up in trying to be other people, I’ve copied musicians, writers, Youtubers and other bloggers. What the hell was I thinking? Life has uniquely qualified us to be who we are. And we can help the world a lot more by being ourselves instead of trying to copy someone that is already there. The world only has one you… So be an original.
- Instead of waiting for a hero, you can be one. You spend your childhood looking up to heroes or waiting to be saved. Instead of complaining that there are no heroes, or that you haven’t been saved – become a hero for someone else.
- It’s never too late to be who you might have been. Today you are the oldest you have ever been – but you’re also the youngest you will ever be again. Take advantage of this once-in-a-lifetime youthful opportunity to become the person you always thought you could be.
- It will be ok. If you’re reading this, then that means you lived through 2015. All you biggest fears didn’t come true (again) and no matter what happened or how many bad things went down – you survived. Use this as a reminder that no matter what comes, as long as you don’t get your head chopped off… it will be ok.
2015 is officially over… and to be honest, it wasn’t all good news. Some of our childhood heroes turned out to be monsters and the dream for peace in the world, our country or even our cities is slipping futher and further away.
Let’s Give Up.
It’s ok to give up on certain things, especially if they are fantasies that will never come true. But it’s important to replace those fantasy beliefs with real ones.
Can’t think of what to believe in next year? Steal mine.
- The most important thing you can do is be yourself.
- Instead of waiting for a hero, you can be one.
- It’s never too late to be who you might have been.
- It will be ok.
See you in the future,